soo the last couple days my oldest boy has been getting into some trouble at school..
back talking not following directions that sort of thing.. so yesterday i had a really on and good talk with him about behavior and consequences and all that good stuff. he even wrote a letter to his teacher apologizing to him. and i felt like he was really sorry.well i told him yesterday that there are consequences for your choices.. good and bad. so i told him that if he had another bad day today that he wouldn't be joining us Friday for the walk with the dinosaurs show. which i think is a big deal.. i wouldn't want to miss it. wouldn't you agree with me?? well today i sent him off and hoped for the best. i know you can have an off day once in awhile. well 3 days in a row. whats up with that. so today i went and picked him up i was so excited i was like how was his day?? his teacher was like not very good i had to send him to the office.. i was like whats??i almost started crying because i knew he wasn't going to the walk with the dinosaurs. i am soooo sad. but i cant give n a let him go.. he did this last year when we went to the zoo lights. he wasn't able to go due to behavior.. does anyone have any suggestion?? am i wrong for not letting him go?? should i stick to my guns.. I'm so sad that he doesn't get to go.. it wasn't like these tickets were free.please help!!!
Thursday, September 11, 2008
whats a mom to do???
Posted by Morris family at 10:28 PM
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4 comments:
You're absolutely right to stick to your guns. Is everything going well for him? Is there someone in the class picking on him or making him nervous? I'm sorry you're having such a rough time!
Is this a new problem? If so, try to think about a change in scenery, diet, mood.... He may be feeling your stress too, and doesn't know how to cope with it. I agree with alamodey, if at school there is a common denominator (same kid) it may be a bullying kinda thing. Good luck girl! Stick to your guns!
You have to stick with it, as much as it is killing you, eventually he will realize and know he can not act like that. Stick with it. Make sure who ever watches him does not have to much fun fun otherwise there would be no difference in letting him go.
It looks like everyone pretty much said what I was going to say. Don't you hate it when you think you are punishing them with something that will be a big deal, but then they still fall short. It is so hard, but if you don't stick to your guns then he'll remember that you gave in.
One thing that always stuck with me from a class I took at MCC was that every behavior has a reason. Now finding that reason is sometimes difficult, but if you can change the reason, then usually you can change the behavior. There is something triggering his behavior, whether it be diet, something in the classroom, something at home...etc. etc. Hopefully things start turning around for you guys.
This walk with the dinosaurs sounds fun - hopefully you can enjoy your night even if your oldest can't.
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